There’s always 2 sides of the coin. Childcare Centre, My First Skool (which is run by NTUC First Campus ) , Alleged Abuse (part 3)

This is FB post from a parent whose child was under that same teacher who was caught mistreating the child.
There’s always 2 sides of the coin.


One comment on “There’s always 2 sides of the coin. Childcare Centre, My First Skool (which is run by NTUC First Campus ) , Alleged Abuse (part 3)

  1. kelly says:

    Violence is not kind and firm discipline, does not work. It could very well be the reason why this child is a bully. A bully is often a child bullied himself.

    I grew up in a family where there were no explainations said to me except a few days after my mum hit me. She would hit me with any thing she could get her hands on. The “record” was sitting on my back and pinning me to the sofa, and with her cane, she continued raining blows with the thin cane on my back that was perhaps 30 to 40 seconds long but what seemed like hours to me.

    Outside, she would use her shoes. It is only with a strong character, I did not turn out to be a bully in school.

    Ironically, my mum had never laid a hand on the babies and children she looked after. I learned early in life about adults’ marital problems.

    To me, any form of physical abuse is punishment, but not discipline. No “amount” of wrongdoings by a child that is capable of committing mistakes toddlers his age are capable of committing, should be punished (physically punished).

    They should be disciplined and most kids do listen to reasoning, if an adult explain it to them nicely and clearly. Sometimes, this happens in the form of story-telling (why teachers tell stories in grammar or art lessons). And sometimes adults have to remind the child periodically, as children can have short memories or they may not take your words seriously.

    What punishment do is make the child FEAR. Fear is not respect. When the person he fears is not around, he may “return” to his old ways because he knows that he is not feeling threatened without the presence of the person he fears.

    Disciplining, on the other hand, teaches the child values and consequences of his undesirable actions. It is not hard to remove toys for example, if a toddler has misbehaved. It is not hard to get the child used to a “time-out” corner where he is isolated from all the exciting activities that the other children are enjoying, he will learn to reinforce good behaviour if he does not want to be excluded the next time.

    Consistency and patience in firm discipline. It is easier said than done but I thought that childcare centre educators are trained to verbalize their anger. “I am upset with you that you ______. If you cannot ______, I will have to ask your parents to take you home (or some other consequence that the child can understand).”

    “If you do not wash your hands, you will have no dessert.” Children should understand the consequences if they go over the boundaries, be it school rules or house rules.

    “If you speed, this is the fine you can get.” Beating a child is not the way, beating an adult is also not the way.

    This boys’ parents and that teacher need parenting classes themselves.

    Any way, American studies showed that about 33% of children or teens exposed to family abuse at home turn out to be criminals later in life.

    This new info about the child does not change my mind that the teacher should still be taken into hands. Nor does it reduce the fear i have (if i am a parent whose child is in that childcare centre), because an injury could be worser. Reality. But your new info does motivate me to share my views on what this child’s parents should do. They really need to start setting DOs and DON’ts, set boundaries for the child.

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